The Family Bong

This is a dark and scary blog subject today. No, it’s not about drugs although a bong for those of you who do not know is an instrument used to smoke almost anything…..

Note to my friends who know more about bongs then me – do not send your corrections as a comment as everyone will see, email me directly and I can issue corrective addendums…….

Now, the story behind the story.  I was listening in on a conversation that I should not have been and someone was talking about a bong so large it could serve several people at once.  The comment was made “Good grief, what is it, a family bong?”

This comment was far too good not to use.  Does your family have a bong?

Not a real life smoking tool but a generational pattern of dysfunction that is repeated over and over and over?

Such as:

Poverty      Self Condemnation    Depression    Self Hate       Bitterness

Unforgiveness       Regret             Divorce

This is just to name a few that I am familiar with.  Time to break the addiction and the habit ladies.  Let us step away from the bong, clear the fog and make better choices.

I take a “self improvement” class every week, have been for a year.  I’ve blogged many times about looking into a mirror and being horrified at myself.  But, as I’ve said, look we must if we want change.  We must “face” ourselves – not others, we cannot change others.  We must make choices for ourselves and then walk that path.  We cannot keep looking over our shoulder hoping someone is following us we must just keep walking forward and let them do whatever they will do.

 Ohhhh, I’m sounding like a preacher.  Ernesto started something when he had me preach in Mozambique –  sisters let me tell you that it is

Choosing to get up

Praying to stay strong

Walking forward

Thinking positively

Talking out loud to OURSELVES

That we can get away from the generation curse.  We may be so comfortable with it that we don’t even know we are addicted to the fog.  We must pray to see clearly and not judge others no matter how hard it is.

I had become so twisted with bitterness that I did not even know how to give grace or forgiveness anymore.  I was a walking bruise and anyone who came close caused me pain because I was like a black banana !  To all of you, I am so very sorry for the burden I placed on you trying to be my friend.  My path was dark and overgrown with so much pain that no one could get near me.

BUT God === now it is my mission to send encouragement over these blogs to try and maybe make up for some of the pain I caused or perhaps show someone else that there is a better way.  The Bible says that we have a choice, to choose life or choose death.  Death will come to all of us and none of us know when so let us choose to live while it is yet light and let death come when it must.

Today, chose life.

“I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live:”

Deuteronomy 30:19

Just to push forward my point… this Old Testament scripture says “and your seed (children) my live”…. It is a generational blessing.