Red Flag

We are going over the “Abuse Cycle” again in class.  Thankfully this is the first time around when I can see someone else’s faults instead of feeling overwhelmed by my own mistakes.  This means that I am making progress, putting responsibility where it belongs instead of being “Co-dependent” and taking all the blame.

Now, with that said, I have always tried NOT to print anything bad about anyone other than myself unless it’s a broad/general statement of human nature and no finger pointing.  But today I’ve decided to point one finger.

Single ladies – let’s talk about “Red Flags”.

A red flag is something that your brain comprehends but is over ridden by your heart telling you it is just a coincidence and not a reality.  Here is the best example that I can give you from my own life experience.

While dating husband #2 we went to visit his best friend.  With my daughter (age 9) and my son (age 3) we sat in the living room as he showed us his Boa Constrictor.  Now, my friends will tell you that I love reptiles, I’ve even owned a couple.  Snakes are fine with me and they are beautiful creatures but really not my thing.   This Boa was a little over two feet long and my husband (boyfriend at the time) was holding it.

As my children looked on he simply let go of that damn snake and dropped in my lap as I sat “Indian Style” in the floor.  So, get this straight, I’m sitting on the floor with a vacant hole in my lap where there is now a Boa.  My children freaked out – I did not.  I chose to sit perfectly still because I did not want to alarm my children or the snake.  I bristled up like a board and was in complete terror until he removed it from writhing around my legs and private area, all the while he was laughing.

This ladies is a red flag.  It was not funny to anyone in the room but him, even the owner of the snake told him it was pretty sick to drop it in that space, especially to a woman.

Now – 14 years later I’m still dealing with the aftermath of the

Verbal             Non-Verbal           and         Emotional

Abuse we heaped upon each other. This post is just one example of his.

Beware Single Ladies   –    don’t date a boy until he grows up.