A New Relationship

So, I bet many of you who haven’t read in awhile are tuning in to see what I have to say about my new man.  Well, my new relationship is with a woman.  Now that I really have your attention let me say that my new relationship is with a Life Coach.

I don’t know what she would call herself but she is a coach.  I am meeting with her once a week and she inspires me and challenges me which is exactly what I need.   I’ve been walking for over 2 years with my head down, concentrating on nothing more than not running.  I’ve put my hands to the plow and stayed focused.

It is time to look up into the Sun and ask God what is next. 

So, I’ve enlisted help from a trusted Christian friend for help.  She’s not part of my weekly class but I’ve come to the place where I need more than the class.

I confessed this week  to all the ladies in class that I am stuck.  I’m stuck in a relationship with myself.  I’ve blogged before about how we cannot expect another person to treat us well unless we treat ourselves well.  Some of us (both men and women) are looking for another person to treat us good, with respect, and even romance but we must do that for ourselves first or the pressure on that other person will be intolerable.

I recently saw a great scene in a movie, a lonely woman was trying frantically to find a husband.

She said “I just want to find somebody to love me is that so wrong?”

To which her friend replied “Somebody, or anybody?”

Wow, how many of us can relate to the stab of that question?  Single ladies, we have got to “up the game” and attract the somebody or we are going to get stuck with an anybody and aren’t we finished with “anybody”?  I’m so finished with anybody that I’ve dated nobody to avoid conflict completely.

I’m hiding.  Hiding in my new place, hiding on this blog, hiding at my work.  Why?  Because I do not want to make any bad decisions.  Sometimes no decision is a decision.

This blog has turned into “to date or not to date” and that is NOT at all what I was headed for, let me rope it back in a bit.

I’m looking to my future in every respect not just the man box.

Parenting   Career   Writing   Soapmaking    Ministry….

Every box is being unpacked – Just like each box in the new place is being emptied, I am being emptied.  What will God be interested in keeping in the new Me and what will be carried out to the curb and taken away by the garbage truck?

Ladies, the next few chapters are going to be interesting, stay tuned.

And don’t settle for less than wonderful – from yourself or anyone else!